The Say No With Love Letters
Join me as I get personal and deep about how saying no has changed my life. Each week, I’ll dive into the good, the bad, and the raw truths, paired with a tangible, reflective question to help you kickstart your own "Say No With Love" journey. Let’s rewrite the narrative together. Using mindfulness and self-discovery, I help creatives break free from self-doubt and limiting beliefs. At Breathing Space Creative, we embrace the long path, paying attention to everything along the way, especially the things we might usually overlook.
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no, I don't believe you have to "write" every day.
Say No With Love Letters no, I don't believe you have to "write" every day. What will you create? I bought into the "you must write every day" narrative for the first half of my writing career, until it just stopped making sense … for me. If there’s one thing I’ve come to understand over the past few years, it’s that we are wildly different as people. Yes, we can find connecting threads, moments of overlap, and shared experiences. But rarely do blanket tips or one-size-fits-all advice land...
READ POSTThe lesson hiding in my reflection notes
Say No With Love Letters In slowing down, I saw the quiet evidence that I’m on the right track. The moon on Thursday Last week I shared how thrilled I was to host the very first in-person Say No With Love session, and what a joy it was. Being together in the same space opened up new possibilities I couldn’t quite reach with the online version I have offered for years. I left feeling inspired, with fresh ideas for how this work might expand into mental health and wellness spaces, and even met...
READ POSThow saying no with love started for me
Say No With Love Letters how saying no with love started for me ... The fact that a Say No With Love workshop for writers sold out says a lot. When I first started playing with this idea of “saying no with love,” it wasn’t about boundaries at all. It began as a process of realigning my life priorities, of asking myself better questions and being brave enough to answer honestly. The boundaries came later, almost as a bonus, but a bonus I learned to pay close attention to. I’ll never forget the...
READ POSTThe self, the project, the ecosystem
Say No With Love Letters The self, the project, the ecosystem When we work only on the writing, we do ourselves a disservice. Being a working writer today means looking at everything, not just the page. The self, the project, the ecosystem. We have to zoom out, take in the bigger picture, and ask both where we are and where we want to go, and make decisions accordingly. But somewhere along the way, many of us tossed all that out the window. I did too, but not anymore. Under my desk there’s a...
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Say No With Love Letters follow a template or build an individualized creative ecosystem for your unique life. Hmm! I pulled this card during a client call and it was another message! Since the beginning of the year, my partner and I have been putting 50 dollars in a little vinyl zip envelope inside one of my old planners. Every week I’d show up to his office with my little planner, pen, and envelope, ready to collect and update the tracker lol. Hey, give me a process I love, and enter...
READ POSTa quiet no that allowed me to choose something louder
Say No With Love Letters a quiet no that allowed me to choose something louder "The real purpose of art is to give emotional lustre to a range of ideas that are most important to us, but that are also most under threat in the conditionals of everyday life." This quote from The School of Life has shown up as a message in various subtle and not so subtle ways literally every day last week. And when messages show up that often, I listen! Yesterday morning, I took my usual bike ride down to the...
READ POSTWhy your words are really all about leading you to an emotion
Say No With Love Letters Writing to feel something ... Why your words are really all about leading you to an emotion Dark vs. Light, Good vs. Evil ... I’ve been fascinated by polar opposites my whole life. This polarity is a constant theme in my writing, though I didn’t fully realize how much it shaped my work until I took a step back and reflected on it. When other writers ask me questions like, Should I follow this project with another piece of fiction? Or do I really want to write memoir?...
READ POSTThere are seasons for "no," and seasons where "no" isn’t what's needed.
Say No With Love Letters There are seasons for "no," and seasons where "no" isn’t what's needed. Fave notebook & oatmeal = letter-writing collaborators Last week, I talked about writing real, tangible letters and how they play a role in my life. I heard from so many of you in response, thank you. Yesterday morning, I wrote another letter, and it opened up something in me that I realized I had unknowingly been saying "no" to for far too long. A day before my birthday, about two weeks ago, my...
READ POSTWriting letters allowed me to slow down enough to stop lying.
Say No With Love Letters Writing letters allowed me to slow down enough to stop lying. From Chapter 4 of my book, Let It Go Slowing down is my form of activism. But we live in a world where everything needs to happen now, when we want it, as soon as the idea pops into our heads. Two springs ago for International Women’s Day, I put together a presentation for a PR firm called Letters of Love: Transforming Relationships One Word at a Time, where I walked them through my own experience of...
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