The Say No With Love Letters
These Say No With Love Letters are a place where I share personal stories of saying no inside my writing and in my wider life, and what became possible on the other side of that no. These are super personal stories that offer a space for writers and creatives to pause, reflect, and get curious about how we show up for our art, our communities, and ourselves. “I'm here to change the story society tells about artists. It starts with each creative believing their life and work matter — and grows into a world that finally sees the arts as essential. It starts by looking at the untouched liminal space between the craft and business of writing...”
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Here's how taking creative risks can double as creative experiment...
Say No With Love Letters Here's how taking creative risks can double as creative experiment... and give you a massive return on your investment. Hello Reader, I recently returned from mentoring fiction writers as part of an MFA program on the other side of the country. And although it was a powerful experience, I was thrilled that this opportunity allowed me to rethink my boundaries, put my decision-making prowess to the test, and increase self trust. I went in treating the whole experience...
READ POSTNot all of the writing mentors I’ve had over the years really taught me HOW to write. I’m grateful.
Say No With Love Letters "Not all of the writing mentors I’ve had over the years really taught me how to write." Well, at least not directly, anyway! Hello Reader, I realized today that not all of the writing mentors I’ve had over the years really taught me how to write. I’m grateful. What they did, each in their own way, was create the conditions for me to see the full range of what writing could be, and what might become possible once I stepped into it. The other day I had a lovely first...
READ POSTSometimes NOT having something is what brings you clarity on what having it really means.
Say No With Love Letters “Sometimes not having something is what brings you clarity on what having it really means.” Hello Reader, All my life I’ve written about home. Some version of home, both literal and metaphorical, always finds its way into my work, into the way I support writers, and into how I show up for myself. Home, for me, is a place where I feel like I can fully be myself, where I can be energized by all the things I’ve chosen to bring into it and what I decide to close the door...
READ POSTWhat if the problem isn’t that you haven’t found the solution yet, but that you’ve been told you need one right away?
Say No With Love Letters At Breathing Space Creative we’re here to build creative practices that fit with our evolving lives, and as a byproduct of that intentional deep work, change the story society tells about artists. It starts with each creative believing their life and work matter, and grows into a world that finally sees the arts as essential. To do this, it starts with the self work. This is how we get MORE from our art. Every month I’ll pick a common societal belief about...
READ POSTYour creative process, once built, is set in stone?
Say No With Love Letters At Breathing Space Creative we’re here to change the story society tells about artists. It starts with each creative believing their life and work matter, and grows into a world that finally sees the arts as essential. To do this, it starts with the self work. This is how we get MORE from our art. Every month I’ll pick a common societal belief about writers/artists that are largely untrue today, and share a personal story about how I’ve personally and professionally...
READ POSTchanging plans means you lack pofessionalism?
Say No With Love Letters At Breathing Space Creative we’re here to change the story society tells about artists. It starts with each creative believing their life and work matter, and grows into a world that finally sees the arts as essential. To do this, it starts with the self work. This is how we get MORE from our art. Every month I’ll pick a common societal belief about writers/artists that are largely untrue today, and share a personal story about how I’ve personally and professionally...
READ POSTIf it's not a big act, it won't make a difference?
Say No With Love Letters At Breathing Space Creative we’re here to change the story society tells about artists. It starts with each creative believing their life and work matter, and grows into a world that finally sees the arts as essential. To do this, it starts with the self work. Every month I’ll pick a common societal belief about writers/artists that are largely untrue today, and share a personal story about how I’ve personally and professionally said no with love to that and how we...
READ POSTYou’ll finally have time for your projects once life calms down?
Say No With Love Letters At Breathing Space Creative we’re here to change the story society tells about artists. It starts with each creative believing their life and work matter, and grows into a world that finally sees the arts as essential. To do this, it starts with the self work. Every month I’ll pick a common societal belief about writers/artists that are largely untrue today, and share a personal story about how I’ve personally and professionally said no with love to that and how we...
READ POSTYou must follow traditional paths to be recognized?
Say No With Love Letters At Breathing Space Creative we’re here to change the story society tells about artists. It starts with each creative believing their life and work matter, and grows into a world that finally sees the arts as essential. To do this, it starts with the self work. Every month I’ll pick a common societal belief about writers/artists that are largely untrue today, and share a personal story about how I’ve personally and professionally said no with love to that and how we...
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