The Say No With Love Letters
Join me as I get personal and deep about how saying no has changed my life. Each week, I’ll dive into the good, the bad, and the raw truths, paired with a tangible, reflective question to help you kickstart your own "Say No With Love" journey. Let’s rewrite the narrative together. Using mindfulness and self-discovery, I help creatives break free from self-doubt and limiting beliefs. At Breathing Space Creative, we embrace the long path, paying attention to everything along the way, especially the things we might usually overlook.
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Say No With Love Letters follow a template or build an individualized creative ecosystem for your unique life. Hmm! I pulled this card during a client call and it was another message! Since the beginning of the year, my partner and I have been putting 50 dollars in a little vinyl zip envelope inside one of my old planners. Every week I’d show up to his office with my little planner, pen, and envelope, ready to collect and update the tracker lol. Hey, give me a process I love, and enter...
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Say No With Love Letters a quiet no that allowed me to choose something louder "The real purpose of art is to give emotional lustre to a range of ideas that are most important to us, but that are also most under threat in the conditionals of everyday life." This quote from The School of Life has shown up as a message in various subtle and not so subtle ways literally every day last week. And when messages show up that often, I listen! Yesterday morning, I took my usual bike ride down to the...
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Say No With Love Letters Writing to feel something ... Why your words are really all about leading you to an emotion Dark vs. Light, Good vs. Evil ... I’ve been fascinated by polar opposites my whole life. This polarity is a constant theme in my writing, though I didn’t fully realize how much it shaped my work until I took a step back and reflected on it. When other writers ask me questions like, Should I follow this project with another piece of fiction? Or do I really want to write memoir?...
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Say No With Love Letters There are seasons for "no," and seasons where "no" isn’t what's needed. Fave notebook & oatmeal = letter-writing collaborators Last week, I talked about writing real, tangible letters and how they play a role in my life. I heard from so many of you in response, thank you. Yesterday morning, I wrote another letter, and it opened up something in me that I realized I had unknowingly been saying "no" to for far too long. A day before my birthday, about two weeks ago, my...
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Say No With Love Letters Writing letters allowed me to slow down enough to stop lying. From Chapter 4 of my book, Let It Go Slowing down is my form of activism. But we live in a world where everything needs to happen now, when we want it, as soon as the idea pops into our heads. Two springs ago for International Women’s Day, I put together a presentation for a PR firm called Letters of Love: Transforming Relationships One Word at a Time, where I walked them through my own experience of...
READ POSTHow putting my phone on airplane mode on my birthday let me out of a tiny prison
Say No With Love Letters How putting my phone on airplane mode on my birthday let me out of a tiny prison Chester hopped up to wish me a happy birthday, then he went back to bed LOL. Yesterday I turned 44. And I’ve been thinking about how birthdays carry so much unspoken weight. Not just the age thing, but the shape of the day. Who shows up. What gets said. What doesn’t. The quiet expectations. The invisible tally of love. I used to pretend birthdays were light and fun for me. I think I even...
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Say No With Love Letters If You’ve Ever Been Told You’re Too Sensitive—Read This On my left the town was in complete sun. To my right, darkness. I stood in the middle, and just noticed. Has anyone ever told you that you’re too sensitive? I used to take that as an insult—a subtle jab at who I was. The comment felt like a weakness, a flaw, just one more thing that made me different in the wrong kind of way. Can I please say no with love to that thinking now? I can see that being sensitive is...
READ POSTIf no one could see your biggest strength, would you keep working at it?
Say No With Love Letters If no one could see your biggest strength, would you keep working at it? Just me (2 summers ago), side-planking in the corn field, nothing to see here! haha During last weekend's "get unstuck" clarity sessions with my writers, I felt a part of myself heal. Now, if you know me, you know "heal, healing, healed" aren't words I use lightly ( I think I used them all together in one line of a stanza, in the middle of a poem I wrote and published 10 years ago lol). But in...
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Weekly Say No With Love Letter that jar at the back of the fridge Dearest Reader, I believe that the most urgent of messages show up exactly when we need them most, but the change only happens if we slow down long enough to listen. And if I've learned anything over the last few years, it's just that: slow down. I had my weekly Say No With Love letter all ready to send out to you folks. But there was something off about it. I reread it a few times and a small thought popped into my head: Is...
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